In life, we often find ourselves in situations where we need to support our friends through difficult times. One such challenging experience is when a friend’s parent is going through hospice care. I hope to provide guidance on how to support a friend who is saying goodbye to their loved one during this emotional journey.
It is especially important to extend our support when our friend has been a pillar of strength for us in the past. In this case, my greatest friend’s mom has dementia and is in her final transition. In this post will outline ways in which we can reciprocate the support and care our friends have shown us during our own challenging times.
Be Present and Available:
During this difficult period, it is crucial to make yourself available to your friend. Offer a listening ear and be ready to provide comfort whenever they need it. Show empathy and understanding by being physically present or virtually available through phone calls or video chats. Let them know that you are there for them, no matter the time or circumstance.
Validate THEIR Emotions:
Grief is a complex and personal journey, and everyone experiences it differently. Validate your friend’s emotions by acknowledging their pain, sadness, and even anger. Encourage them to express themselves and feelings openly and without judgment in THEIR own way. Assure them that it is normal to feel a range of emotions during this time and that you are there to support them through every single one of them all.
Offer Practical Assistance:
Practical support can go a long way in easing the burden on your friend during this challenging period. Offer to help with household chores, meal preparation, or running errands. By taking care of these tasks, you allow your friend to focus on spending quality time with their parent and alleviate some of the stress they may be experiencing.
Educate YOURSELF about Hospice Care and Dementia:
To better understand what your friend and their parent are going through, take the initiative to educate yourself about hospice care and dementia. This knowledge will enable you to have informed conversations, offer relevant advice, and provide emotional support. It also demonstrates your commitment to being there for your friend during this difficult time.
Encourage Self-Care:
Remind your friend to prioritize self-care during this emotionally draining period. Encourage them to take breaks, engage in activities they enjoy, and seek support from other loved ones or support groups. Offer to accompany them on walks or engage in activities that promote relaxation and stress relief. Taking care of oneself is crucial in order to be present and supportive for others.
Respect “THEIR” Grieving Process:
Everyone grieves differently, and it is important to respect your friend’s unique grieving process. Avoid imposing your own beliefs or expectations on how they should mourn their loss. Instead, provide a safe space for them to express their emotions and be a compassionate listener. Remember, grief takes time, and your role is to be there for them throughout their journey.
Final Thoughts:
Supporting a friend who is saying goodbye to a parent going through hospice care is a delicate and challenging task. By being present, validating their emotions, offering practical assistance, educating yourself, encouraging self-care, and respecting their grieving process, you can provide the support your friend needs during this difficult time. Just as they were there for you during your own struggles, now is the time to reciprocate their kindness and be a source of strength for THEM. XO
